BiSexuality FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions about BiSexuality

This FAQ about BiSexuality was compiled and written by Jon Harley jon@parkplatz.net with numerous contributions by others.

Copyright (c) Jon Harley 2001. May not be reproduced for profit.

A1. What is bisexuality?: Bisexuality means sexual or romantic attraction or behavior directed ...

A2. What is "a bisexual"?: A strict definition of a bisexual would be someone who has romantic and/...

A3. Is there a difference between "a bisexual", "bisexual" and "bi"?: Yes. Definitions for a bisexual are suggested above - all relating ...

A4. So if I've never slept with a MOTSS/MOTOS, but I feel attracted toone, am I bisexual?: (See section B12 for the definitions of MOTSS/MOTOS)...

A5. Aren't bisexuals just going through a phase of being confused about their sexuality?: The simple answer is no or at least not necessarily - many of us ...

A6. Aren't bisexuals really denying their homosexuality?: It's difficult for some lesbian/gay people to come to grips with ...

A7. Are bisexuals equally attracted to both sexes?: Many bisexuals feel they have a preference for one sex over the other, ...

A8. Do bisexuals have to have lovers of both sexes to be bisexual?: No. People who call themselves bisexual are saying that they are attracted ...

A9. Are bisexuals capable of monogamy?: Yes, some are. It depends on the individual. It's like asking Can a ...

A10. But if they're monogamous, how can they be bisexual?: A bisexual deciding to be monogamous is not deciding to be gay ...

A11. Isn't everyone really bisexual?: Not by any useful definition. A useful definition of bisexuality might be,...

A12. Why do you think bi issues are different from gay issues, since all your problems come from the same source, homophobia?: While homophobia is a bi issue (many would say the biggest issue), we do ...

A13. Why would lesbians/gay men discriminate against bisexuals?: One reason is because we are sometimes perceived as hiding, a sense ...

A14. Why CAN'T you choose one sex over the other?: Some of us have tried, but why should we? Denying our attraction to one sex ...

A15. I've discovered that I'm bisexual - should I tell my family?: Look at your life, and decide that if by telling them you will help yourself,...

A16. Is there really a bisexual community?: You're talking to one right now. We are here to share our lives, ...

A17. Are there any bi-friendly places in real life?: Yes. Some lesbian/gay venues (pubs/bars, clubs, meeting-rooms) ...

A18. Does anyone know of any good books with bisexual characters?: The Bisexual Resources List (cf section A20) gives up-to-date details of ...

A19. What is the Kinsey scale?: Dr. Alfred Kinsey created a scale, graduated between heterosexuality ...

A20. What other resources are available on bisexuality?: There is a great deal of information on all kinds of aspects of ...

B0. The prevailing "etiquette": This section describes the prevailing etiquette approved by consensus ...

B1. Hi, I'm straight. Is it okay if I post here too?: You do not need to be bisexual to post here and be welcomed. Indeed, ...

B2. Is it okay if I ask you all a few questions about bisexuality?: Please realise that many people who are bisexual (or members of any ...

B3. Would you all please help me with this survey on sexuality?: People post surveys to soc.bi pretty regularly, so you are not likely to get ...

B4. "How can I pick up some hot bisexual babes for a threesome?": Don't even THINK about using soc.bi for picking up casual partners. Soc.bi ...

B5. Is there anything else I should not discuss on soc.bi?: While by and large anything goes, any consideration of the morality (...

B6. Why is crossposting a bad idea?: Posting to two or more newsgroups runs a greatly increased risk of ...

B7. Can I post my list of bi wombat fans weekly/monthly?: It is recommended that periodic postings to soc.bi satisfy at least one of ...

B8. I haven't seen any responses to my posting. Are you all ignoring me?: In all likelihood, people have read your posting but choose not to respond ...

B9. Why is soc.bi so argumentative at the moment, why can't it always be nice and fluffy?: There is no one single purpose to the soc.bi newsgroup. Some people like ...

B10. You flamed a newbie! Shouldn't you be more supportive?: Soc.bi is a discussion group, not a support group. This does not mean ...

B11. I'd like to post to soc.bi but my newsreader won't let me, is there another way? And can I post anonymously?: If your local news server or software won't let you post, and you have a ...

B12. What do all these acronyms mean: MOTSS, MOTOS, SO, TOCOTOX, YASBP, HBB, HNG?: MOTSS: Member(s) Of The Same Sex. Often loosely used to refer to anyone ...

B13. What about: muffin, de-muffining, fluff, bidar, obBi, bidiot, BBQ-ripple, nutella, sock-biter?: muffin: A person who reads but has never posted to soc.bi. De-muffining ...

B14. What do you mean by "monosexual"?: Monosexual is a term which can be used to describe any person whose long-...

B15. What's all this about a cabal?: Some people make jokes about a soc.bi cabal of people who know each ...

B16. How old is soc.bi?: The group was newgrouped on the 22nd October, 1991. Its charter, ...

C1. Frequency and purpose: This FAQ is posted weekly to soc.bi,news.answers,soc.answers. It is ...

C2. Contributors: These are the people directly involved in developing the FAQ. Although ...

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