Bondage FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions about bondage
This FAQ about Bondage was compiled and written by numerous contributors.
0 Introduction- Soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm is a Usenet discussion group, ...
1. 1. What do B&D, S&M, D&S, "top", "bottom" mean?- The easy part first: B&D = bondage & dominance or bondage &...
2. What is a "scene", and what is "negotiation"?- SM has definite connotations of theater. The fact that you are ...
3. What is a "safeword"?- One of the thrills of SM is that it can stretch your limitations. ...
4. When is pain not pain?- Often people outside the scene don't see the appeal in any of the ...
5. What are some basics of safe SM, emotionally and physically? - SM is often play, and as such is fun! But SM can also get intense ...
6. Is everyone either a top or a bottom?- One perception that some people can have, looking into the scene ...
7. How can I learn to be a good top?- When first getting into the scene, it can often be somewhat ...
8. How can I learn to be a good bottom?- It can also be hard to learn to bottom, if what you're used to ...
9. Why is bondage fun?- Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless,...
10. Why is whipping fun?- One way of thinking about whipping is as another way of ...
11. What is body piercing? What is "C& B" play, or "genitorture"?- Piercings aren't just done to ears. People on this list have ...
12. What is cutting/play piercing/burning/branding/electrical play?What are "bloodsports"?- First questions first. Cutting is the SM practice of using a scalpel ...
13. What is it about breath control? Is it safe to make someone passout?- Some people enjoy playing with cutting off their air during ...
14. What are "golden showers"? How about "scat"?- Another kind of play, also known as water sports. Basically, ...
15. Is anal sex safe? Why do people do it?- Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex. ...
16. What is "fisting"?- Everyone (well, almost everyone) knows what finger-fucking is. ...
17. Does the way I play qualify as "real" SM? What is "real" SM,anyway?- Sometimes on a.s.b, people will post wondering if what they do ...
18. What is it about leather/latex/high heels/corsets/other fetishes?- All these things--erotic clothing or objects of whatever type--...
19. What about shaving body hair and/or crossdressing?- Another fetish many people have is smooth skin, with no body hair....
20. Why am I defending SM?- One of the problems with SM is the social programming against it. ...
21. Is SM degrading or abusive? Were most SM people abused?- Often people approach SM with nothing but negative stereotypes in ...
22. Why is SM taboo, and is SM criminal, unnatural, immoral, unethical,or unhealthy?- If what I've been saying in this FAQ is accurate, then why haven't ...
23. Isn't the bottom always in control?- One of the paradoxes of SM revolves around consensuality. Everything ...
24. Can someone "really" be someone else's slave?- This is the last question in another guise. Is it possible for there ...
25. What are the "codes"?- Often the hanky code is mentioned on s.s.b-b. What is it? It's ...
26. My fantasies scare me. What if I get too into SM?- Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that ...
27. I want to throw a play party; how can I go about it?- Occasionally on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm^ ^there is a flurry of ...
28. I want to attend a play party; what is the etiquette?- The simplest way to fit in in a play party is to behave politely. ...
29. What's the deal with this anonymity stuff?- There are many people who post to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm ...
30. Are SM people subjected to political or social harassment?- Like all alternate sexualities, SM is stigmatized in many ways by ...
31. Aren't there too many topics on s.s.b-b?- Every now and then, someone posts to s.s.b-b asking why there are ...
32. I'm sick of certain topics on s.s.b-b. How can I avoid them? Also,what's with all these ads?- s.s.b-b, like all Usenet groups, has its share of flame wars. Many ...
33. I don't have access to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm; what can I doto get information about the scene?- A question I've been getting more and more often as my FAQ ...
34. What is role-playing?- Most children know the thrill of dress-up, let's-pretend,...
35. What are some web sites/books/magazines/organizations/stores/newsarchives where I can get SM information or toys, or meet people in thescene?- This list is (permanently and congenitally) incomplete and needs all ...
35 Bondage Fiction books- Not all of the scenarios in these books are what I would ...
35 Bondage Organizations- First of all, people who read s.s.b-b or other ...
35 Mail-order houses- Most of these places require you to state that you're 21 or over ...