NewlyWed FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions by NewlyWed

The information in this FAQ reflects the consensus of regular participants to the newsgroup from July 1998 onwards. Most of it has been edited for formatting and (slightly) for content by the maintainer, but the original threads should be archived on Google Groups (http://www.google.com) if anyone wants to read the full discussions.

This FAQ for NewlyWeds was compiled and written by Vicky Larmour vicky@jifvik.org with numerous contributions by others.

1.1) What is alt.newlywed?

1.2) Why is there an alt.newlywed?

1.3) What topics belong on alt.newlywed?

1.4) Do I have to be a newlywed to participate?

1.5) Is advertising allowed on alt.newlywed?

1.6) What are those abbreviations I keep seeing?

2.0) Methods for resolving arguments

2.1) Advice

2.1.1) Never go to sleep angry

2.1.2) Fight naked!

2.1.3) Hold hands

2.1.4) Use humor

2.1.5) No name calling

2.1.6) No third parties

2.1.7) No past history

2.1.8) Avoid blanket statements

2.1.9) Stop and think about whether you are hungry or tired

2.1.10) Try not to raise your voice

2.1.11) Stick to the subject

2.1.12) No cheap shots

2.1.13) Remember your spouse isn't a mind reader

2.1.14) Recognize when it is your fault, and apologize

2.2.1) Mars and Venus

2.2.2) Text-book arguing :-)

3.0) Hints and resources for homebuying

3.1.1) Get your finances in order

3.1.2) Get pre-approval for a mortgage

3.1.3) Make use of books and the Internet!

3.1.4) Mortgage brokers

3.1.5) Save!

3.1.6) Plan ahead and make sure your expectations are realistic

3.1.7) Get a blank purchase offer form

3.2.1) Get an independent inspection

3.2.2) Check out the house and the neighbourhood (at different times of day!)

3.2.3) Take notes

3.2.4) Explore all the options

3.2.5) Keep your opinions to yourselves

3.2.6) Sleep on it

3.3) Making an offer

4.1) 1st Anniversary Gift: Paper

4.2) 2nd Anniversary Gift: Cotton

4.3) 3rd Anniversary Gift: Leather

4.4) Romantic Gestures

5.1) Coping with loss of a child: amazon's book recommendations and comments

5.2) Coping with loss of a child: Kellie's book recommendations and comments

6.0) Hints and resources for car buying

Headaches Begone! A Systemic Approach To Healing Your Headaches

Don't Let Your Bike Seat Ruin Your Sex Life Book