The 7 biggest mistakes you can make right after sex
Call them the seven deadly sins.
An intimacy coach says the moments after sex are just as important as the act itself — and she’s sharing the seven things a person should never do post-coitus.
Holly Robinson, who runs online “Surrender With Holly” sex and intimacy classes, dished her list in an interview with the Sun on Wednesday.
“The energy transfer created in sex continues well after sex has finished,” Robinson asserted, saying one wrong move could ruin the entire erotic experience for a partner.
Below, check out the intimacy coach’s list of no-nos following the Big O.
No negativity
“The moments after sex are a space to share what you loved about it, not what you would like to be different,” Robinson stated, saying sex critiques should not be offered immediately after the act.
“This is your space to share what you loved — save the rest for another time,” the coach advised.
No more naughty names
In the throes of passion, a sex participant might enjoy dirty talk and consent to being called a naughty name.
However, once sex has ceased, stop addressing your partner with any potentially derogatory terms.
“You might love being called something during sex, but to be called it after and you might get a very different reaction,” Robinson dished.
Don’t phone it in
As soon as you climax, you might be tempted to reach for your phone to check for any missed messages or emails — but Robinson says that’s guaranteed to immediately turn a partner off.
“Gaining full consciousness takes up to 15 minutes after burying your head into a screen,” she explained. “That’s why going on your phone straight after having sex is the ultimate disconnection from your partner.”
Don’t mention an ex
This one might seem obvious, but Robinson says it’s shockingly common among her clients.
“Although I am pro-openness within a relationship, sharing our past experiences after sex isn’t the time to do it,” she stressed. “It will possibly leave your partner questioning why that was at the forefront of your mind instantly after your sex together.”
Don’t talk about chores
Another surefire way to ruin the mood is to immediately address a list of things that need doing around the house.
“After sex should be a peaceful space to be together and enjoy what you have just experienced,” Robinson stated. “Aim not to start talking about that deadline for your work project, or the kid’s sleep routine.”
Don’t jump straight out of bed
If you’re not tempted to check your phone after a sex session, you may be tempted to jump out of bed to clean up and wash off — but avoid that urge.
Robinson says several minutes of post-coital cuddling can make the overall experience so much more enjoyable.
“Choosing to stay connected to each other allows more hormones to flow, such as rushes of oxytocin,” the coach claimed.
Don’t get upset
Once you’ve spent several minutes cooling down from a steaming hot sex session, Robinson says, it’s OK for partners to feel differently — and you shouldn’t be offended.
“After an orgasm, your partner could feel depleted while you may feel energized, and that’s OK,” she said. “If you want to jump up and start doing bedtime yoga, don’t be offended if your partner wants to sleep, or vice versa.”
