Inside Kevin Costner's Life as a Dad of 7: Lobster Dives, Volleyball Practice and Being an 'Uber Guy' (Exclusive)

In a new PEOPLE cover story, the Oscar winner and 'Horizon' director opens up about raising his kids and why his family will always be his 'anchor'

Courtesy Kevin Costner Kevin & kids from left to right: Lily, Joe, Grace, Hayes, Annie & Cayden - Carpinteria 2023
Kevin Costner with six of his seven kids. Photo:

Courtesy Kevin Costner

Kevin Costner may be a Hollywood legend and all, but at the end of the day he's just like any other dad on the road.

"I'm an Uber guy," he says in this week's cover story. "I'm not any different than anybody else!"

Indeed, Costner, who tops the list of PEOPLE's 100 Reasons to Love America in this week's 2024 celebratory issue, often finds himself shuttling his three younger kids, Cayden, 17, Hayes, 15, and Grace, 14, whom he shares with ex-wife Christine Baumgartner, between friends' houses, school, and volleyball practices.

"They're like shooting stars," says Costner, who is also dad to four adult kids, Annie, 40, Lily, 37, Joe, 36, and Liam, 26. "My life is driving up and down the freeway just trying to get the children where they think they need to be... but that’s part of the job."

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Kevin Costner poses with his children Cayden Wyatt Costner, Lily Costner, Grace Avery Costner, Hayes Costner and Annie Costner after the screening of the film Horizon: An American Saga at the 77th edition of the Cannes Film Festival in Cannes, southern France, on May 19, 2024.
Kevin Costner and five of his kids at Cannes Film Festival.

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The tight-knit Costner clan grew up surfing, spearfishing, lobster-diving and naming "every critter in the tide pool," says the star, who cherishes family time at their home in the Santa Barbara area that boasts views across the Pacific.

"They surf, and they dive, and we spear fish…We use every inch of the ocean, and the property…It's a perfect place for us."

Costner has long found unwavering support in his family and his kids remain the "anchor" of his life. "They know that I have this chosen work, but honestly, I'm really clear about where my responsibility absolutely lies at the end of the day," the star says.

When he's not playing driver for Grace and Hayes, both of whom are on volleyball teams, Costner manages to keep his kids close another way: by casting them in his films. His older three kids, for instance, were all in Dances with Wolves as youngsters. "I'm locked in a 70-millimeter film with my children," he says of his Oscar-winning 1990 western epic. "Those were my home movies."

Kevin Costner's Son Hayes, 15, Makes Acting Debut in Dad's Horizon: An American Saga Trailer
Costner's son Hayes in 'Horizon: An American Saga'.

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His youngest son, Hayes, makes his acting debut in Costner's new and highly ambitious western, Horizon: An American Saga, and his son Joe has a role in the upcoming third chapter of the planned four-part series. 

Hayes, for one, loved the extra time with his father. "It felt like the greatest way that we could bond over something we both love and to create lasting memories together," the teenager tells PEOPLE. "Working with my dad was an unforgettable moment in time."

Even better? The chances to steal away for father-son fishing trips, says Hayes: "It’s more about spending time together and talking...It's those quiet, peaceful moments that I cherish the most."

For more from Kevin Costner's exclusive interview, please pick up this week's issue of PEOPLE, on stands now.

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