Summer Tao, Author at Autostraddle

Summer Tao

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Health

Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis

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Lesbian Sex

How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’

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Lesbian Sex

‘I Only Want To Top During Sex and My Partner Is Taking It Personally’

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Relationships

‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’

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Health

What Comes After Surviving Suicidality?

Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink by Tina Horn

LGBT Book Reviews

‘Why Are People Into That?’ Asks Incisive Questions About Kink

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Relationships

‘The Lack of Physical Affection From My Girlfriend Is Becoming Unbearable’

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Health

How To Be a Better Advocate for Victims of Sexual Violence — Especially Yourself

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Dating

4 Questions To Ask Yourself When Entering an Age Gap Relationship

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Dating

It Feels Especially Bad To Be Ghosted When You’re Neurodivergent

Dating

I’m a Hopeless Romantic Who Keeps Falling in Love With My Friends

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Money + Work

So You Want To Start an OnlyFans

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Lesbian Sex

I’ve Changed, But My Kinks Haven’t

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Health

How We See Our Impairments as a Disabled Sapphic Couple

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Lesbian Sex

Sensory Deprivation BDSM for Beginners

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First Person

How I Listen to True Crime After Knowing a Murderer

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Dating

A Love Letter to Cuddle Dates

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Lesbian Sex

How To Improve a Queer Sex Marathon

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Gender

4 Moments During My Transition When Womanhood ‘Clicked’ for Me

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Geekery

Dice Sets Ranked by How Much My Girlfriend Wants To Eat Them

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Geekery

Jump Into Pen-and-Paper Roleplaying With These Free and Simple Systems

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Comedy

I Accidentally Crushed on a Rocket Scientist Lingerie Model Who Was Actually AI-Generated

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Lesbian Sex

What’s a Nudes Protocol and Why You Should Have One

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Geekery

An Unkempt List of Great Video Games for Queer Relationships

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Lesbian Sex

How To Handle Traumatic Resurgence During Sex

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Gender

Here’s to Another Year of Legally Being a Man

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Gender

What Can a Nonbinary Transition Look Like?

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First Person

Uncertainty and Disquiet: My Non-Consensual Childhood Circumcision as a Trans Woman

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Lesbian Sex

How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy

Health

If Your Neurodivergent Ass Hasn’t Rediscovered Plushies, This Is Your Sign To Start

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Geekery

Palworld Could Be Your Relationship’s New Favorite Game

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Health

What Queers Need To Know About Eating Disorders

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Gender

How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends

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Health

How To Engage With New Year’s Resolutions More Thoughtfully

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Lesbian Sex

Things I Do To Feel Submissive Even Though My Partner Isn’t Super Dominant

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Dating

How To Support a Sex Partner With an Eating Disorder

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Lesbian Sex

I’m a Trans Woman, and This Is What’s in My Sex Bag

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Lesbian Sex

How To Please a Pillow Princess, by a Pillow Princess

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Dating

I’ve Been Non-Monogamous for Eight Years — These Are My Mistakes and Lessons for Happier Loving

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Relationships

When One of Us Transitioned, Our Relationship Changed for the Better

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Relationships

How I’m Rewriting the “Trophy Wife” Script As a Queer Trans Woman

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Why Queers Should Play Tabletop Roleplaying Games

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Sex Toys

An Obituary for My Departed Vibrators