12 Best Strap-On Dildos, Harnesses, & Beginner Sets for Everyone

The Pegasus harness bundle includes everything you’d need for a fun pegging experience: a jock-style harness and a vibrating, remote-controlled dildo that you can even take underwater. Queen recommends this set, which is catered to receivers who prefer deeper, more curved penetration that perfectly hits the G-spot or P-spot. If you want to switch out the dildo in question, just look for another one that features a suction cup base.

If you’d prefer to pick and choose your harness and dildo separately, Sparks tells Glamour that the Joque—aptly named for its jock-style design—is a best-selling option thanks to its ease of use. It has adjustable waist and leg straps for added comfort and support, with a built-in O-ring that’ll stretch between 1.25 and 2 inches to make room for a dildo with a flared base. For more stimulation, Sparks notes, the Joque features pouches above and below the O-ring that can hold a bullet vibrator.

This strapless strap-on dildo has a removable bullet vibrator with three speeds and seven vibration patterns. The textured shaft is 6.5 inches long and 4.5 inches wide, with a curving silhouette that’s adept at G-spot or prostate stimulation. “The shaft used for penetration is rippled for additional sensation and can be posed and positioned to hit the internal spots that do the trick for your partner,” Kate Balestrieri, PsyD, a certified sex therapist, tells Glamour. Bonus: It’s bath- and shower-sex-friendly.

If all you’re looking for is a one-and-done strap-on set, Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, recommends this option from Happy Rabbit. It’s truly the full package, featuring a rabbit vibrator you can use with or without the harness—so it’s perfect for those who need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. There are also three interchangeable O-rings if you do decide to swap out the rabbit for another dildo. You’ll also get a jock-style harness that’s adjustable and fits waists up to 67 inches.

This jock-style four-way harness is another great option for beginners or folks who want a one-and-done shopping experience. Recommended by Carol Queen, PhD, a sex expert at Good Vibrations, it includes a fun purple dildo made of body-safe silicone and a comfortable polyester harness that sizes up to 60 inches around the waistline. The dildo is on the more slender side, but it’s also totally interchangeable if you have other preferences—just keep in mind that this harness will fit only other dildos up to 1.25 centimeters in diameter.

Anyone can use this eight-inch dildo, but because it’s hollow, it’s especially well-suited to people with penises. Simply insert your member and you and your partner can spice up your sex life by playing with a longer penis. If you’ve got a vulva, no worries—it’ll keep its shape regardless.

Some tops like to keep things low-key with harnesses. While they look like everyday underpants, this unisex pair of CalExotics briefs is actually sturdy enough to hold a dildo in place while in use. It features two pockets for vibrators or packers, plus a 1.5-inch silicone O-ring that can fit most dildos with a flared base. “These are great because the one doing the thrusting can also wear a butt plug and feel secure in knowing that the briefs will give the plug extra encouragement to stay in place,” says Chatel. “There’s something really hot about anally penetrating your partner, while you’re enjoying backdoor stimulation at the same time.” You might also love that the front opens up completely, meaning there’s room to insert a double dildo if that’s more your speed. It’s available in a wide range of different sizes too.

Here’s a va-va-voom lingerie-style harness, accentuated by lace and detachable garters, that’s equally parts comfy, flirty, and stretchy. “As someone who struggles to be dominant in bed, I like these because they still allow me to have some ownership over my submissive side,” says Chatel. “I definitely recommend them to those who are new to pegging or, like me, need to maintain that typical girlish look.” This harness can accommodate dildos with a 4.75-inch circumference and because the O-ring is already included in the design, can be worn with strapless strap-ons as well.

Ready to explore even more of your sexual fantasies at once? This BDSM kit from Lovehoney has the aforementioned harness kit accompanied by a huge variety of kinky sex accouterments, including a ball gag, a blindfold, and nipple stimulators. “With this set, you have everything you could possibly want to explore different sensations and discover new sexual interests,” says Chatel. “I’ve recommended this to friends who are very new to BDSM play and they loved it. But I also know of super experienced kinksters who also adore this set because it really does have it all—well, except the water-based lube.” It’s the ultimate night in for the adventurous couple.

If you’re a glutton for double penetration and triple stimulation, this wearable 6-inch dildo with an attached rabbit vibrator is the only toy you’ll ever need. “Although I don’t often crave double penetration, when I do, this is the first toy I reach for,” says Chatel. “It really has everything I need when I’m looking to literally be ravaged and (consensually) destroyed by my partner.” Although the bullet vibrator requires batteries, that’s a minor inconvenience compared to the pleasure this toy serves up on a silver platter.