By Alia E. Dastagir and Alia Wong

Experts say this is what children need to survive the COVID-19 pandemic

EDUCATION

How do I know if my child is OK?

Brenda Jones Harden, the Alison Richman professor of children and families at the University of Maryland School of Social Work, said "normal" is different for every child. Parents should be concerned if their child appears more sad, hopeless or angry.

Is adversity good for kids?

Nat Kendall-Taylor, a senior fellow at the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University, said people typically think of adversity in two ways: Either kids are unbreakable ā€“ impossibly resilient ā€“ or adverse experiences damage them beyond repair.

Toxic stress is severe in its strength and chronic in its duration and happens without that buffering relationship. That's the kind of stress that can damage development.

Tolerable stress is when bad stuff happens, but it happens in the presence of a buffering, supportive relationship, like the one a child has with a parent.

Positive stress is being challenged and pushed mildly out of your comfort zone, which leads to growth and development.

There are different classes of stress, he says, and outcomes depend on the kind of stress a child is experiencing.

How worried should I be about my kids' use of screens?

A Pew Research Center survey this summer found more than 71% of parents in the U.S. with children under 12 were concerned their child was spending too much time in front of a screen.

How much does my well-being impact my child?

A caregiver's well-being is directly tied to their child's. Experts underscore a child's best buffer during the pandemic is a supportive parent.

How can I react to my child in a calm and loving way when Iā€™m stretched so thin?

Stressed parents can be distant and distracted, but children need emotional and physical closeness. Communication is key.

Is the pandemic causing my child permanent damage?

Experts say that unless a child is experiencing toxic stress, they probably will recover well and may build resiliency that will serve them in the long run.

How can I do my work from home and not neglect my child?

Quality matters more than quantity, experts say. Even if you can't give your child all the attention they crave, showing you are still present and available for important things can go a long way.

How much does missing in-person school matter?

That depends on a few variables. In-person school is optimal, but children who have supportive caregivers at home and access to technology will likely fare well.

What is one thing I can do every day to help my child?

Check in, Harden said. Children need space to open up. Put away the screens, put away the distractions, and talk to your child.

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