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You can be honest with him about how these messages make you feel. You can also set a boundary.
As in, “Listen, whenever you reach out, it’s confusing for me. It feels like you’re trying to get back together – but I assume that’s not the case. I have no interest in friendship at this point, so I need to ask you to stop all contact. No more memes and messages. It makes it too hard for me to continue to move on.”
You can add an “I wish you the best,” if you want.
I assume he does miss you, and that when he sees a meme that reminds him of your time together, he’s desperate to share. But that doesn’t mean he wants to be your romantic partner. It just means that memes and inside jokes feel like forever sometimes.
The old pictures seem far more manipulative and thoughtless. I have no idea what he’s up to with that – but he doesn’t seen to be considering your feelings very much! He’s sending these memories without context, warning, or purpose. It’s a very good reason to keep him in the ex category.
As you set this boundary – and yes, you can block his accounts, too – consider whether this new relationship is fun. You didn’t say anything bout the person you’re dating. I hope you’re excited about the company, and if not, you can try something new.
– Meredith
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