Woman Shares List Of What Not To Say To 'Chronically Single 30-Year-Old'

A self-dubbed "chronically single 30-year-old" has shared a list of things to never say to women who are not in relationships.

Getting ready for her 10th baby shower of the year, Nikki Casha (@itsnikkicash), 30, decided to tell TikTok the most infuriating comments she receives on a regular basis, in a video that has already garnered 47,100 likes and 481,100 views.

"I know most people's comments are meant to come off as endearing but they end up making me feel like I am never going to find what I am looking for. Most of their comments imply finding a 'good guy' and settling for that.

"Not to say that a 'good guy' is settling, because I want a good guy! But I want more than just a good guy. I want a great guy. I want my best friend.

"Men in today's society either don't want to settle down, or they quickly move on to the next best thing," Casha, who has been dating for five years, told Newsweek.

First on Casha's list of things to avoid saying is: "It will happen when you're not looking."

The realtor, who lives in Lakeland, Florida, explained that the dating scene is so terrible she is not looking for anything.

"I don't know if I need to be blindfolded and take some extra measures, but I promise you, I'm not looking," she said.

Next on Casha's list is: "You have to put yourself out there," which completely contradicts the first tip, she explained.

This unsolicited piece of advice is always followed by asking if she is on dating apps.

"And let me just say, the dating apps aren't it okay. You know the leftovers that you have in the fridge, that you forgot about from two weeks ago, that are all the way in the back? That's what's on dating apps. There's nothing to look at," said Casha.

The content creator said she travels all the time and is in a different city almost every weekend.

"I'm out there, I'm screaming for the rooftops If you look at the rest of my TikTok, I am single, I am 30 and I am waiting for a husband.

"I can't say looking because I'm supposed to not be looking," she added.

The third comment on Casha's list was: "You're so, so young," or "you still have so much time."

Casha said at 30 she feels she is running out of time.

"I wait any longer, my friends kids will be old enough to date me," she said.

Next up on the list: "Date older," and by older people mean 10 years older.

"So now we're looking at 40 year old man that's single, probably hasn't been married yet, and they want me to date him. Does anybody else see the red flags there? 40, never married, still single."

The final piece of advice is: "Don't settle."

"I wouldn't have made it this far if I planned on settling now would I?" Casha said.

More women like Casha, voluntarily or involuntarily, are turning their backs on marriage and relationships, with a record 52 percent of U.S. women unmarried or separated, according to a report from Wells Fargo Economics—marking a 20 percent increase over the past decade.

"I think the most annoying comment people make to me is that I'm too picky. I truly don't think that is the case. I may have higher standards than most but I am looking for something spectacular, not something subpar. I refuse to settle," she told Newsweek.

Though being single at 30 is not all bad, Casha said she values her freedom and independence.

"Because I'm single, I am able to say yes to any opportunity that is thrown my way so I do a lot of living! A lot of traveling, experiencing new things, meeting new people," she said.

Though she misses having someone to share life experiences with and wants somebody with whom she can build a life with.

Recalling one dating disaster, Casha was set up with a mutual friend at a party and she asked him what he was looking for in the future.

He didn't mention a wife or family so Casha decided to decline his invitation to dinner.

"My decline sent him into a fit causing a scene at the party and exclaiming to everyone how crazy I was for inquiring about something that serious this soon.

"Maybe I'm crazy for knowing what I want and not wanting to waste my time, but the guy acted as if I wanted him to get down on one knee right then and there," said Kasha.

Other single women congregated in the comments section to share their similar grievances. "'You need to love yourself first' as if the people that married their high school sweethearts were more enlightened at 15 than I am at 33," said Maddie.

"Honestly I'm ready to date younger," said Kate Kulpa

"37 years old here, I get 'have you thought about freezing your eggs?' and 'you look great for your age' so often it makes me want to scream," said Courtney.

"Hi 31 here. Honestly that whole it'll find you when you least expect it is bs because everytime I've ended up in a toxic relationship. I'm good. Traveling and a being a cat mom sounds divine," said Tateyana.